As 2021 wrapped up, I looked back on the year. And I wouldn’t say I was disappointed with it, I mean, I gained my precious baby girl, but I didn’t accomplish much. So after reflecting on self-improvement, once again I will be embarking on an attempt to do better this year. I won’t be creating any lofty goals, but I have a few (hopefully achievable) things I’m aiming for.
Literary Goals
I’d like to write more regularly, and this would include blogging, journaling, poetry, and stories, both fictional and non. I’d also like to read more. I have been listening to a lot of audio books because I can do that while taking care of Addy and/or doing stuff around the house. But, and maybe I’m just silly, I don’t feel that audio books…count? Perhaps I just need to get over myself. What do you think?
Health Goals
Another goal is to keep on regaining my health. I hesitate to call it a ‘weight loss’ journey, because I don’t want that to be the only aim in this category, but it is important to me. I’m embarrassed to admit the actual amount, but I picked up a LOT of weight just before and while pregnant. I’m also not exercising regularly. I happen to be an unmotivated person in general, and I’m not good at going to the gym and working out under my own guidance. I do better in a class setting with someone telling me what to do. But memberships here in the states are expensive! And thus I’ve become a couch potato.
Spiritual Goals
Weirdly enough, even though I’ve been a PK (pastor’s kid) my entire life, my faith walk has been more of a crawl. I have never been good at being disciplined with daily devotionals and things (do you see a theme, here?). But now that I have a little one, I am feeling very motivated to set a good example. Those little eyes see everything. And monkey see, monkey do, right?
True Productivity
After reflecting on self-improvement, a more indefinable goal is to focus on the truly important things. I have a bad habit of prioritizing chores and cleaning over everything else, which can be good, but it can also be detrimental. Especially considering the things I want to change this year. I need to learn to let go, the dishes will be there later but my baby won’t always want that extra cuddle. Laundry should be done on occasion, but should not be a replacement for good cardio. And maybe it’s okay to skip making the bed to write for ten minutes instead?
Things I’m Doing this Month:
What I’m reading/listening to in Non-fiction: What to Expect in the First Year by Heidi Murkoff
What I’m reading/listening to in fiction: The Count of Monte Christo by Alexander Duma and The Time of Contempt by Andrzej Sapkowski
What I’m reading/listening to in faith: I’m reading a proverbs a day, which I think I will do all year long. I am also working my way through Matthew.
What I’m memorizing: Proverbs 1.
What I’m writing: a journal entry a day.
Hiya. Good to hear from you. Life with a young baby usually doesn’t have a moment to spare, so writing will have to take a backseat for a while. Or not. You may be interested to hear that there’s a high falutin’ Psychology term for avoiding tasks, I think it’s called Displacement Activity, when you will do anything – tidy your Sock Drawer – count your teaspoons – anything, to avoid getting down to your Income Tax Return/ your Journaling/ your edit of your latest story. Etc. DA is an old friend of mine. That’s why I can hold forth about it with confidence.
I know what you mean about Audio Books feel like Reading Cheats. But when I had a full time job, and reading time was scarce, due to my after hours teaching activities, my Audio Books were a godsend. I listened whilst I cooked supper! worked very well. Those days are long gone, & I can read my head off 24/7 if so inclined. Just love your life, whatever stage its at!
Wow! DA does sound pretty similar to what I do. I may have to do some research into how to handle it appropriately.
You know, I think you’re right about audio books. There will probably come a time when I will wish to be back here with my baby, so I’ll listen to books and spend the time with her while I can!
Howzit, Meggals! You have all you need. I am greatly encouraged to read your honesty and desire to create more healthy habits and have Addy be a part of them to watch her Mamma’s example. It speaks volumes of you!
Love you lots and lots xx. Be strong and courageous always.
I love you, too, A! Thank you for your encouraging words. 🙂
Hi Megan. I always enjoy reading your blog posts. Your writing is a treasure to read. Losing weight after a baby is always difficult but I am sure you will find a way to get back to yourself soon. I love audio books and I count them as part of my reading. I don’t care what others think honestly, life is ridiculously busy and anyway I can fit my reading in during my 30 minute lunch break while listening to an audio book works for me. So glad you’re writing even if its journaling. Take care and keep blogging.
Hi, Sumi! So great to hear from you!
Thank you, I think I will count audio books. They certainly are a marvelous modern invention!
Megan!
Thank heavens I’ve found a moment to procrastinate at work so that I can drop a few thoughts ;).
Firstly, hearty congrats on becoming a mother. It’s been so long since I’ve written that I can’t remember if I’ve wished you yet. I know that you’ll be an awesome Mom.
There is a real air of maturity in this post. You’ve always been honest and self-reflective, but it’s especially cool to see that you’ve moderated your self-criticism. You simply can’t do it all, all of the time. The irony here though, is that you’re already doing many of the things you aim to do without even trying.
– You’re prioritizing
– You’re baring your soul and reaching out to connect, despite feeling unaccomplished.
– You’re taking the time to think clearly and to focus on what really matters
Most of all, you’re taking action.
One really can’t ask for more. Well done and keep at it!
Much love
Randolph
Thank you! I have loved every moment of being a mom.
Also, your words are so kind, and have made me cry! I feel a lot better about all this, thank you!